(Nexstar) – It’s time to stop treating your romantic relationships such as stadium equipment.
The trend of dating known as “monkeys”-which was named after the popular stadium feature-has occupied newspapers in recent weeks after the relationship expert spoke with them Deputy About unhealthy practice.
As she described it, the monkey’s warrior refers to a bad habit as one of the party lined up in the relationship with another relationship before separating from his current partner. In this way, the inevitable limb uses its ties such as monkey bars – not completely abandoning before seizing another.
This practice, however, is only new. People on their social media have Share Experiments with this phenomenon for years, and sometimes you call it “The branch monkey.”
“The Monkey Monkey Specger” has come across “several times”, which was said by Divin Simon, a dating expert and fancy maker, for Nexstar. ))
Daters may not be considered the series whose “monkey branch” is cheating or even deceiving if it does not result in anything material, but it is not. no These things, too. They may not see this in this way, partly because they are addicted to “beating dopamine”, which is to search for a new person.
“Although it may be good to know that you already have a brilliant and new person, as he failed to do work, such as admitting that your current/old relationship does not work, what you could have done better as a partner, and to discuss it honestly with the other person – [it means] Simon said: “You just accumulate a set of issues that have not been resolved. It is like” taking a lot of souvenirs from a journey – not that good. “
The reasons that may be the person Monkey Simon said that from the relationship to the relationship is varied, but these people usually share the same “anxious attachment pattern”, which often stems from fears of abandonment or coding issues.
either way [of abandonment or codependency issues]Behavior is not really a person. It is about trying to escape discomfort to be with yourself. “
At the subconscious level, some serial data may be placed itself for failed relationships (and therefore, the continuation of the monkey’s continued) by settling quickly in a comfortable arrangement with a new person-even if this person is not a good match.
“Once the monkey branch, they will do it again,” One of the Reddit users wrote Last year, he claimed that he was a former non -sincere expulsion that was “in the early stages of its monkey branch” and was not ready to leave the relationship.
He said: “He threw it in a tail that is still able to overcome it,” although he believes that she might say she is happy in her most modern “toxic” relationship.
Sooner or later, many Darters Barr Monkey may realize that the transition from one partner to another is not a satisfactory or sympathetic method-so far. When that happens, Simon said that people should be “rooted honest” with themselves about the reason they do what they are doing. A relationship therapist may also be able to help.
“I ask questions like: Have you ever felt giving up, and how did you deal with her? What is the best moment I had before? What do I hope that someone really appreciates me?” Simon said. “This reflection helps you know if you are chasing relationships to avoid old wounds instead because you actually want this person.”
Without treatment or some self -search, Simon said that a prominent DTS is likely to continue to collect emotional luggage while leaving the path of destruction that dates back to their waking up.
She said: “If he does not treat her at some point, they will be stuck in a hurry that is not deepened.”